In just a few days, we’ll be celebrating our 9th anniversary - apart from each other. Being away has given me the space to reflect on the things we’ve missed along the way. At one point, I thought I might lose him, because distance made me realize the issues we hadn’t sorted out when we were together.
But through this season, I’ve come to see more clearly the value of each other and the weight of our relationship. 9 years together has taught me that just because you’re not having big arguments doesn’t mean everything is okay. And just because you’re talking about goals and the future doesn’t mean it’s enough. What I’ve truly learned is that communication must cover every area of life, not just the obvious ones.
✨ To truly nurture a relationship, you need to grow together in many dimensions:
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Body → passion & intimacy (to be flirty and naughty too 🙈)
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Heart → emotions & affection (to not forget to compliment each other and highlight how their flaws made them unique)
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Mind → vision & goals (always keep each other excited about the future)
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Spirit → faith & values (reminding each other to never forget to thank the God of light, the creator of the universe, and light God a candle every week)
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Intellect → learning & curiosity (continuing to grow with our own interests)
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Play → fun & laughter (we play MU together, just in separate guilds though... lol)
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Health → self-care & wellness (reminding each other to eat healthy and on time)
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Money → security & planning (securing of future with wise planning and insurance)
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Service → shared purpose beyond yourselves (giving charity to family, friends, people in need)
I thank God, the Creator of the universe, for opening our hearts and minds. Even in distance, we’ve learned to see each other more deeply - and love each other more now than we did in the past nine years.
Thank you for being my partner in this beautiful, messy, sacred journey of love. I choose you yesterday, today, and always.
💗 I love you! 💓
